Don’t Settle. Time’s Flying.
Life’s too short to listen to people who play it safe. Get what you want—and become who you really are.
Life’s Too Short to Not Get What You Want
Two things I want to talk about in this article:
Life’s flying by
Life’s too short to settle for “meh”
Let me explain.
Since I turned 30 (I'm turning 33 this year), it’s felt like time has been on fast-forward.
Even when I’m doing the things I love—training hard, setting PRs, building my brand, going to the beach, and spending time with the people I care about—life just zooms by.
Like, holy shit… It’s almost August already.
And that brings me to point number two:
Life’s too short to not get what you want.
Too short to settle for “good enough” or let someone else talk you out of what you really want.
Example 1: The Car
Anya and I have been driving the same car for the past 11 years.
It’s a red VW Citi Golf that was given to me after my university years, as a “hand-me-down” from my uncle, who bought it from someone else.
It’s been a good drive - we’ve taken good care of it, and it’s taken care of us. It’s been with us through A LOT and has taken us many places. We’re also not planning to get rid of it anytime soon.
And even though Anya and I could afford any other upgrade years ago, we didn’t have enough reason to do so.
Fast forward a few years, and we’ve gotten a kid, like to go on road trips, and have needed to hire a bigger vehicle for the holidays when being accompanied by friends or family.
But we still postponed an upgrade because we wanted to make sure we waited until we were 100% sure about the big decision we were going to make.
We wanted to make sure it checked ALL of our boxes - necessities, preferences, style/taste, size, perks and ofc, speed and power.
Thankfully, Anya and my tastes are very much the same, so the decision wasn’t very hard. Once we narrowed it down to 3 types of vehicles, we gave it more time until we felt very certain about one.
The one we liked the most was the more expensive option, but we knew it was the one we liked and wanted the most. Not because it was more expensive, but because it ticked every single box for us and was exactly our taste.
Other’s opinions
When I met up with my accountant a while back to discuss some financial/business matters, I mentioned to him about the vehicle we wanted to get. His reaction was something along the lines of:
“That’s overkill…I don’t think you need that…There are plenty of other cars with similar features that’ll get you from A to B.”
Then he told me about the time he got a sporty Lexus, how the novelty wore off quickly, and how it left him feeling kind of empty.
Not full buyer’s remorse; just that it didn’t live up to the hype.
Fast forward a few months… We got the vehicle we wanted.
And you know what?
It exceeded our expectations.
One of the best decisions we’ve ever made. So glad I didn’t listen to other opinions to settle for something less.
Zero regrets.
It honestly feels like me, in car form.
My personality, energy, and drive—embodied.
Example 2: Almost Everything Else in My Life
This didn’t just happen with the vehicle.
It’s been a pattern in my life.
“Don’t date that girl.”
→ She’s been my wife for over 10 years now. Best decision ever.“Don’t become entrepreneurs.”
→ We’ve been running our business for over a decade now. It was brutally hard at first, but worth every struggle and challenge.“Don’t buy that house.”
“Don’t do that, you’ll regret it.”
“That’s too risky.”
“That’s not practical.”
Here’s what I’ve learned:
If you want more than average…
If you want to live your actual dream…
You can’t live your life by other people’s limitations.
And you sure as hell can’t listen to the advice from people who don’t put in the extra effort to get more out of life, and who can’t be happy to see you do better in life.
Sometimes you’ve got to tune it out, trust yourself, and just go get it!
Even if people criticize you.
Even if they don’t understand.
Even if they think it’s “too much.”
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Now let me wrap this all up with the hormone bow.
Testosterone and DHT make it easier to:
Ignore the noise
Stay focused
Trust your gut
Move with confidence
Take bold action
Handle risk
Walk through criticism without flinching
When your hormones are optimized, the inner voice gets louder, and the outer noise fades into the background.
You think clearer. You move faster. You stop second-guessing.
And you start getting what you actually want out of life.
Because this isn’t a dress rehearsal.
This is it.
So stop settling.
Upgrade your mindset.
Upgrade your biology.
Go get what you want—and don’t apologize for it.
Don’t know where to start:
Hey Hans!
Hope you’re doing well. Quick question for you I’m planning to spend 4–5 days with a few friends and couples, all sharing a house. Do you have any go-to sleep hacks or supps that really help you calm your mind and body, especially in a more stimulating or social environment like that?